Expectations, Hopes, and Successful Life
Expectations, Hopes, and Successful Life, It is not possible to fulfill all our wishes. We don’t get anything in life according to our desire, it is not necessary. Because man gets something according to his desires in life by the grace of God.
But we basically travel to every destination of ingratitude very quickly. When we experience success in life, we are busy with the next endeavor. When Allah blesses us with a blessing, we lose the sense of its importance in our hearts, and then we spend our days wishing for more. Basically, we expect to get everything our heart desires. This is contrary to the rules and regulations of nature.
Success has never basically been about getting everything. We always live under the illusion that we have all the comforts and conveniences of life. And if that happens, we consider it a success for us. But you should pick up the biographies of all the successful people. This success was not given to them on a plate, nor even after being successful, all the blessings of life are available to them. Think for a moment that Bill Gates, who was the richest person in the world at one time, is called the most successful person in our opinion and is such a name in the business world that his name rings around the world. But even after this level of success, they are facing problems in their married life.
We want comfort in relationships and consider them successful. When this is possible, our heart is not satisfied. He makes a good job or positions the center of success. If this kind of luck happens, we try to climb the ladder of wealth as a new ladder of success. Suppose this is also possible, then after the rail of wealth starts, if you suffer from health problems, the only success you will see is a healthy life. Turn that whole wheel back for a moment. You were living a healthy life on the first rung when all relationships were peaceful. But your heart is not ready to stop at one place. Indeed, life is the name of flow, but on the other hand, life is also the name of contentment. Being content with what you have and continuing to strive for a better quality of life is a good practice in itself. Continuous effort is the hallmark of Ashraf al-Makhluqat. But even in this continuous effort, it is necessary to be grateful for what passes. But we are unable to do this and we lament the failure of our life. Although we are not able to imagine our life as successful, thousands of people are living contentedly with the same style of life.
Our hopes motivate us to move forward in life. But sometimes these hopes become a big obstacle to our success. Vain hopes to take us away from our destination and start growing plants of envy, malice, and lust in our hearts. And we start cultivating these plants in an invisible way. And soon these social attitudes become trees. And this is where the journey of our life begins. Instead of trying to balance our expectations, the achieved and the present, we think of success as galloping like a galloping horse. Expectations and hopes are two sides of a river that can never meet. But it is our success to maintain a balance between them like two banks of a river never meet, but neither one bank is complete without the other and the river is formed by the union of these two banks. One of the major causes of problems in life is when our expectations overwhelm our hopes. Hope is a light, but vain expectations are like a deep darkness that causes the light to decay.
Moderation, contentment with the present, and striving for success but not allowing expectations and hopes to dominate oneself are the main signs of a successful life. We keep connecting the success of life with the success of others and make our life hell. If we make it our habit to sincerely appreciate the success of others, then not only a positive attitude will begin to develop in society, but also positive changes will begin to take place in ourselves. Overall, the attitude that why so and so has this and why I don’t? Licking us like termites. We can hope that our effort can bring us to the same place. But having expectations that make us jealous, leads us to be depressed.
A negative change in our behavior not only takes success away from us, but other units of society connected with us also start suffering from problems. As a result, family problems, business confusion, and psychological disorders start to increase, and their increase leads to the destruction of society as well.
Where effort ceases, life becomes like a stagnant lake where moss begins to accumulate and stink. But in this effort, if negative attitudes prevail, we will be far away from success in life. The success of life is that we must make expectations and hopes a torch. But do not decide before the attempt that our every hope will be fulfilled according to our expectations.